Our partners

The Good Grief Trust

The Good Grief Trust exists to help all those affected by grief in the UK. Our vision is to find the bereaved, acknowledge their grief and provide reassurance, a virtual hand of friendship and ongoing support.

Our central national database brings all UK bereavement services together around the country, to ensure that everyone receives a choice of tailored support from day one.

With over 600,000 deaths in the UK every year, at some time in our lives ALL of us will be affected by grief and none of us know how we will react to the death of someone close until it happens.

  • We are a solely voluntary charity, run by the bereaved, for the bereaved.
  • We aim to offer a fresh insight into the way grief is recognised.
  • We aim to encourage talking about grief in a more honest, straightforward way,
  • We aim to help to offer inspiration and hope to the bereaved to enable them to move forward with their lives.
  • Our website lists a growing database of over 800 bereavement support organisations under one umbrella. www.thegoodgrieftrust.org
  • Our Good Grief card works alongside the website, to signpost both the bereaved and those working with them. directly to a choice of support, for any bereavement, anywhere in the country.
  • Our vision is that the cards are given to every bereaved person in the UK to as soon as possible after the death
  • This one central signposting resource is distributed via hospitals, hospices, GPs, police, healthcare professionals, coroners, universities, schools, crematoria and so on.
  • Our Good Grief Pop Up Cafes bring communities together to share their grief and find new local friendships.
  • We are Secretariat to the All Party Parliamentary Group on Bereavement Support bringing UK charities and individuals affected by grief together to influence improvements
  • Our social media reach is extensive, creating a network of the bereaved, supporting one another

Website; https://www.thegoodgrieftrust.org/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegoodgrieftrust/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/goodgrieftrust
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodgrieftrust/

The Loss Foundation

The Loss Foundation is the only UK charity dedicated solely to providing bereavement support following the loss of a loved one to cancer, whether that be spouses, family members, friends or colleagues. We also offer specific Covid-19 loss support. We provide a variety of support events to help people at any point during their loss, and create the opportunity for them to meet others who have experienced something similar. We also educate and empower others to support those who are grieving via our workshops and training. Telephone: 0300-200-4112 www.thelossfoundation.org info@thelossfoundation.org

Let’s Talk About Loss

Let's Talk About Loss offers peer support meet ups for 18-35 year olds who have bereaved. There are 28 groups across the UK and an online meet up accessible to anyone, anywhere in the world. Find out more on our website: www.letstalkaboutloss.org or follow us on social media @talkaboutloss

Cystic Fibrosis Trust

The Cystic Fibrosis Trust is the only UK charity dedicated to fighting for a life unlimited by cystic fibrosis for everyone affected by the condition. People with cystic fibrosis experience a build-up of thick sticky mucus in the lungs, digestive system and other organs, causing a wide range of challenging symptoms affecting the entire body. We support people with cystic fibrosis and their families by:

  • funding ground-breaking research
  • promoting the highest quality care
  • providing information and support when it's needed most
  • and fighting for access to life-saving drugs for everyone with cystic fibrosis

Dragonflies

Dragonflies offer families, children and young people a safe space to share their feelings and experiences of bereavement, and provides creative and therapeutic activities alongside group discussion. For children aged 5-18 years, a series of peer group sessions are delivered by trained staff and volunteers across Hastings, Rother and Eastbourne areas. The project offers one to one counselling for young people aged 15 years plus, and early years support for children aged 5 years and under.​

Stand-by-me Bereavement support

Based in Hitchin Stand-by-me Children’s Bereavement Support work with children and young people in the North Herts and Stevenage area. Our Groupwork Programme brings together children of similar age to give them an opportunity to meet others in similar circumstances, learn about how to manage their emotions in a therapeutic environment so they can achieve their potential. Our website: www.stand-by-me.org.uk is our first line of support providing information and advice to help a child recognise and manage grief. Our website also offers information and resources to those involved in day-to-day care of children e.g. teachers and health professionals. We have a telephone helpline (07469 255139) for parents/carers to help them understand their child’s grief and give them an opportunity to express concerns about their child’s well-being and refer to our Groupwork Programme.

The Muslim Bereavement Support Service

The Muslim Bereavement Support Service is a charity that supports women who have undergone bereavement. It started off as a charity that supported mothers through pregnancy loss and child bereavement but has since expanded to provide all other forms of support too. We offer support in multiple languages, delivered by trained befrienders. Our service is free and confidential. Please contact us on info@mbss.org.uk or on 020 3468 7333. You can also visit our webpage: www.mbss.org.uk.

The Compassionate Friends

The Compassionate Friends is a national organisation of bereaved parents offering support and understanding to others after the loss of a child, of any age, from any cause. Our national Helpline is staffed by volunteers who are bereaved parents themselves and offers support and information 365 days a year. We also offer:

  • local support groups and local one-to-one support
  • online support groups – both locally and for particular aspects of child loss
  • weekend retreats and gatherings
  • online talks and events for bereaved parents and their families
  • a comprehensive website and moderated online community forum
  • support in private, well-moderated Facebook groups
  • information leaflets, bereavement support publications and a unique postal library on all aspects of bereavement
  • specialist support for parents bereaved by suicide, by substance use or alcohol, road traffic incident and for parents who have lost their only child or children
  • support for adult bereaved siblings
Please contact us to find out more. Helpline: 0345 123 2304 Hours: daily from 10.00-16.00 and 19.00-22.00 Website: www.tcf.org.uk Support pages on the website: www.tcf.org.uk/support

Last Wishes

We at Last Wishes are on a mission to educate, inspire and empower you to make your Last Wishes and Live Their Legacy. We wish to offer support during this time of uncertainty, to honour grief and fear so many of us are feeling and when individuals are ready, we also provide peace of mind by empowering you around your end of life and Last Wishes. Join us at: www.Lastwishes.world.

Childrens Bereavement Centre

Sadly every 22 minutes in the UK a child is bereaved of a parent. The Children’s Bereavement Centre is here to offer support to these children at one of the most traumatic times in their lives. By making a donation, you’ll enable us to continue the valuable work we do helping these children through their grief.

Harrys Rainbows

Harry's Rainbow support children bereaved of a parent or sibling in Milton Keynes. Existing services have been adapted and additional services have been rolled out to support the bereaved during the covid pandemic.

Meningitis Now

Meningitis Now is the founder of the meningitis movement and the only charity dedicated to fighting meningitis in the UK. With over 30 years’ experience we are working towards a future where no one in the UK loses their life to meningitis and everyone affected gets the support they need to rebuild their lives. Meningitis Now fights the disease on all fronts:

  • Providing a powerful, united voice for people fighting meningitis.
  • Saving lives by funding vaccine and preventative research.
  • Reducing the disease’s impact through awareness.
  • Rebuilding futures with dedicated support.
  • Fundraising to deliver our plans.

The Swan Song Project

The Swan Song Project is a charity that supports people to celebrate life and leave unique legacies in song. Our team of songwriters work with people living with terminal illnesses or dealing with a bereavement to write and record their own original song. These songs can then live on providing comfort and joy for years to come. The Swan Song Project is based in Leeds but now offers its service nationwide. For more information visit www.swansongproject.co.uk.

Ray Of Light

We are a registered charity who provides practical and emotional support to Carers,friends and family affected by cancer. We offer Bereavement Support and help to reduce Social Isolation, covering Cardiff and Cwm Taf Morgannwg. We provide our craft and support groups remotely as-well as weekly telephone support. To offer a weekly call to see how everyone is has made a big difference, this has been a lifeline for so many who and are isolated, shielding and unfortunately also for end of life too.

Oasis and christchurch bereavement

Christ Church at Flackwell Heath, provides through its pastoral team, bereavement visiting and our OASIS group. If you are bereaved, and feel unable to talk to those closest to you, we offer home visits from a member of our visiting team, we will providing a confidential listening ear and give emotional help. OASIS is a bereavement self-help group offered by by Christ Church, and is open to all in the locality who have suffered any kind of bereavement, recently or some months or even years ago. It meets monthly, on the first and third Wednesday afternoons and second Wednesday evenings in the Church centre. Oasis provides a social opportunity alongside fun activities such as music, craft, talks etc. Everyone is valued equally and treated with sensitivity and respect. The church holds an Annual Remembrance Service, in November, for relatives and friends to remember loved Ones. Christ Church Chapel Road Flackwell Heath HP10 9NB 01628 533004 Charity 1132634 www.ccfh.org.uk

Hope House

Hope House and Tŷ Gobaith Children’s Hospices care for babies, children, young people and young adults up to the age of 25 years who have life-threatening conditions and are not expected to live beyond 25 years of age. We offer counselling and bereavement support to anyone who has been affected by the death of a baby, child or young person (up to the age of 25 years when they died). Their death may have occurred in any circumstances. This support is available to children, young people and adults who live in Shropshire, Cheshire, Mid and North Wales. Our counselling service is free and confidential and you do not need to have had any prior contact with Hope House Children’s Hospices. Our counselling service is British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy Accredited and is broadly person-centred. All our counsellors are registered or accredited members of the BACP. Registered Charity Number: 1003859 Tel: 01691 672618 (Hope House) & 01492 554443 (Tŷ Gobaith) Email: counselling@hopehouse.org.uk or counselling@tygobaith.org.uk Web Address: - www.hopehouse.org.uk

Butterflies

A dedicated bereavement resource centre for Hampshire and the Isle of Wight providing counselling, Listening, Support Groups, Helpline, Friendship Service, Dementia and Loss, Suicide prevention and much more In response to demand across the two Counties we are also opening 15 new community hubs

2 wish upon a star

2 Wish Upon A Star support anyone affected by the sudden and unexpected death of a child or young person aged 25 and under. We are an All-Wales organisation working directly with every hospital and police force in Wales to ensure that no-one goes unsupported. Our primary focus is the immediate family who have lost their loved one; however, we also support extended family, friends, colleagues, professionals and witnesses. We provide memory boxes, immediate support, counselling, complementary therapy, play therapy, group support and residential weekends. We do not put a time limit on grief and, no matter when the death occurred, we will support someone at any stage of their grief journey.

Sudden

Sudden is a charitable initiative for suddenly bereaved people and the people caring for them. The vision of Sudden is a world where everyone suddenly bereaved gets the help they need at a time of darkness to move forwards to a brighter day. Our mission is to ease the suffering of people bereaved by any kind of sudden death through our helpline and resources.

Grief Chat

GriefChat is a safe space for grieving or bereaved people to receive immediate and free support from a qualified online bereavement counsellor. In addition to this, GriefChat can help bereaved people to consider if they need additional support and provide guidance on where to source this. This service is free of charge and is open Monday-Friday, 09:00 - 21:00 (UK time) for anyone affected by grief of bereavement. You’ll find us at www.griefchat.co.uk

At A Loss

AtaLoss.org provides the UK’s signposting website for the bereaved. Widely used by local authorities, the government, NHS, Care England, the funeral industry, bereavement charities and organisations across the UK, the website offers easy and accurate signposting to national and local support services, as well as information and resources for anyone who has been bereaved. It hosts a free live chat counselling service and currently has dedicated pages for bereavement during the Covid-19 pandemic. The charity is also involved in a coalition project equipping churches and faith groups throughout the UK to provide bereavement support to their local communities.

Carers Information service

The Carers Information Service At the Carers Information Service, we offer information, advice and support to carers and former carers in Croydon. A carer looks after a friend, family member or neighbour who needs their help due to illness, disability or old age. Our Bereavement Service offers carers and former carers the following services: One to one Bereavement Counselling Currently by phone due to Covid-19 restrictions, these sessions are run by our BACP registered Carers Bereavement Counsellor. Bereavement Cafes Themed monthly bereavement cafes to encourage those grieving to share their feelings and to know that there are others who understand what they are going through. Isolation is often felt after a bereavement, and one of the aims of this service is to reduce feelings of loneliness. Due to Covid-19 restrictions, this is currently operating via Zoom. Learning from Loss Groups A seven week programme offering carers and former carers the opportunity to explore their feelings during the themed sessions. For further information on these services, please contact our Carers Bereavement Counsellor, Tanya Fitzgerald, at tanyafitzgerald@carersinfo.org.uk / 020 8649 6280 W: www.carersinfo.org.uk T: https://twitter.com/informingcarers

Seasons for growth

"Seasons for Growth is an evidence based peer support programme for children aged 5-19 years and adults who have experienced significant loss, change, or grief. This is an educative program to enable coping skills and enhance communication abilities following experiences such as death, separation, or divorce; or indeed any significant loss. Seasons for Growth is based on the belief that change, loss and grief are normal and valuable parts of life. It aims to produce a sense of resilience, personal growth and acceptance of change. Grief is a bewildering experience and can take many forms. The seasons in nature represent change, with good days and bad days. They occur in a cycle which we cannot alter or prevent from happening. Accessible and easily understood, the metaphor of the natural seasons – autumn, winter, spring and summer – provide participants in our programmes with a language which helps them to understand and learn from their grief experience."

CRY

CRY Ireland (Cardiac Risk in the Young) was founded in March 2002 by parents who had experienced the effects of sudden and unexplained death within their families. The objectives of CRY are: · To raise awareness of the condition known as Sudden Cardiac Death or Sudden Adult Death Syndrome through media campaigns and public information meetings. · Provide counselling and support to families affected through our Family Support Programme – if you would like to speak to someone please get in touch – email: familysupport@cry.ie · Support the CRY Centre where families affected and individuals at risk can be evaluated. Contact: Address: The Cry Centre, Unit 14B, Tallaght Cross west, Dublin 24. Telephone: 01 414 2235 Email: info@cry.ie

For the Fallen

We are a Social Enterprise and not for profit organisation. Our goal is to raise awareness and give a voice to the families left behind by military suicides. For The Fallen strives for greater mental health support for serving soldiers, airmen and sailors including reservists and Commonwealth servicemen and women, veterans who leave the Armed Forces, their families and those directly impacted by the suicide. These families should have a powerful voice that is recognised as the key to suicide prevention. Awareness is also key because with improved knowledge comes greater understanding. We offer support group for family member who are directly affected by military suicide.

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Owls

OWLS (Overcoming Worry, Loss and Sadness) Bereavement Service is funded by donations to the Jane Tomlinson Appeal. Founded in 2019, we support primary school-aged children and their families living in Leeds following the death of someone special. We provide family support in the form of our OWLS Lending Library and signposting to local adult services; we offer 1:1 psychoeducation for children so they can better understand grief and its effects; schools are supported through free training sessions for staff and workshops and assemblies for children; we run regular peer support activity days, where bereaved families can come together and build an informal, supportive network; we also have an experienced Dramatherapist who provides clinical support for children psychologically affected by their bereavement. All our services are provided free of charge, thanks to Jane Tomlinson Appeal fundraisers. Website: https://www.janetomlinsonappeal.com/owls Email: owls@janetomlinsonappeal.com Tel: 0113 433 3737

Project Eileen

Project Eileen is a multimedia programme for UK secondary schools to help young people tackle the topic of death and grief. The charity seeks to raise awareness, address the stigma, combat isolation, build resilience and boost creativity.

Support After Murder&Manslaughter

SAMM (Support After Murder and Manslaughter) is a national, registered charity providing non-judgemental support to people bereaved through murder, manslaughter or terrorist attack. All our members and volunteers have been bereaved in this way so know the pain and trauma of coping with the aftermath of homicide.

Nova Foundation

Nova Foundation provides trauma informed comfort, anxiety and grief support to babyloss parents by running antenatal classes for babyloss parents that will in time fund trauma therapists.

Birmingham St Marys hospice

Birmingham St Mary’s Hospice provides a range of end of life care and support in people’s homes, in the community and at the Hospice, offering people more choice wherever and whenever they need it. In April 2020, Birmingham St Mary’s Hospice launched a new bereavement telephone service, providing free one-to-one support to those who are 18+, living in Birmingham and Sandwell and are struggling with the loss of a loved one. Experienced volunteers will provide a safe, confidential place where an individual can talk through their thoughts and feelings without judgement. Individuals do not have to be a patient or family member known to the Hospice to access this support. This new service can be accessed by anybody who has been bereaved, no matter how the person died or how long ago the loss was. Individuals can refer themselves to the service by sending an email with their name and number to bereavement@birminghamhospice.org.uk or by calling Beth Hopkins, Bereavement Counsellor on 07966 165287. Professionals can also refer on behalf of their client by completing and submitting the referral form on our website: https://www.birminghamhospice.org.uk/bereavement-referral/”

Willowbrook hospice

Willowbrook hospice is a registered local charity that enables people facing life-limiting illnesses to have a better quality of life. Thanks to the support of the local community we are able to provide specialised care to local people when it matters most, without charge.

The Laura centre

"The Laura Centre is a bereavement counselling service for when a child dies or is bereaved. We offer counselling to adults who have been bereaved of a child of any age and counselling to children who have been bereaved of a parent or sibling. In response to the covid-19 pandemic, we have extended our remit to offer support to anyone who has been impacted by a covid-19 death. To find out more, please contact us on (0116) 2544341 or info@thelauracentre.org.uk The Laura Centre also has training packages in place to help staff support the needs of both bereaved children and adults. The training gives an excellent understanding of how to help someone express and understand their grief using interventions supported by Theories of Grief. Training packages can be tailored to address specific bereavement needs identified by your organisation, including the impact of Covid-19, trauma and general childhood anxiety. Please contact us on training@thelauracentre.org.uk to discuss this further."

Yellow Hearts to remember

Yellow Hearts to Remember- Covid19 Facebook Support Group The Yellow Hearts to Remember campaign was founded by David Gompertz after the death of his much loved wife, Sheila Gompertz, due to Covid-19. David suggested that individuals who have been affected by loss during the coronavirus pandemic display a yellow heart in their window, to show how the country is covered with families that have lost somebody and been touched by this pandemic. The Yellow Heart has since become a national symbol of remembrance. The Gompertz family went on to create a Facebook group called ‘Yellow Hearts to Remember-Covid19’ so that grieving families have a place to share photos of their yellow hearts, personal experiences or just feel comfort in the fact that they are not alone. This Facebook group has grown to have over 6000 members. People come together to remember those who have so sadly died too soon and support those who have been left behind. We aim to ensure: -the nation is aware of the enormous personal tragedy we are experiencing -our loved ones are not just thought of as statistics -our loved ones are remembered -no one who has lost a loved one to coronavirus is alone We are thinking of you and when you are ready to talk, we are here to listen. Facebook; https://www.facebook.com/groups/yellowheartstoremember Hashtag; #loveforthelost

Advocacy After fatal Domestic Abuse

AAFDA has over 11 years of experience advocating for families after the homicide or suicide of their family member or friend, following domestic abuse. Our specialist and expert Advocates are highly trained and very knowledgeable in all aspects of domestic abuse and the processes following domestic homicide or suicide. All of our Advocates have direct experience of serious domestic abuse, domestic homicide, or suicide following domestic abuse. This means our service is peer informed If you have lost a member of your family or a friend through domestic homicide, or suicide following domestic abuse, we are here to help. What we do: • Listen to you with understanding and compassion. • Ensure your voice is heard. • Provide specialist & expert Advocates. • Use that expertise to advocate for you during domestic homicide reviews, Inquests, serious case reviews, mental health reviews, and similar inquiries. • Bring families together to share their story and benefit from peer support. Our service is independent, free of charge and led by you. Contact us via info@aafda.org.uk or call 07768 386922 Or visit our website. www.aafda.org.uk

Penhaligon’s Friends

Penhaligon’s Friends is a Cornish charity supporting bereaved children, young people, parents and carers throughout the county. Celebrating their 25th anniversary this year, the charity offers children and young people the chance to meet others and share their experiences, as well as practical resources for children and parents. www.penhaligonsfriends.org.uk

Ripples of compassion

Ripples of Compassion was set up in memory of Ripely Olive Corless who died after a 9 month battle with acute myeloid leukaemia at the age of 2 in October 2017. We strive to ensure that all bereaved parents/carers and families that have a child that has died receive appropriate social, emotional and mental health support at the time they need it in a way that is accessible to them.

Isabel Hospice

At the moment we have a bereavement team of staff and volunteers who are offering 1-1 telephone support for anyone connected to our patients and also anyone who has lost a loved one to Covid19. We do in the future hope to start offering peer support cafes around the area to support bereaved persons.

Jigsaw4u

Jigsaw4u provides support to children, young people and families affected by cancer, life limiting illness or bereavement.

Sands

Fife Sands is part of Sands, the stillbirth and neonatal death charity. Sands operates throughout the UK, supporting anyone affected by the death of a baby, working to improve the care bereaved parents receive, and promoting research and working closely with many different organisations to reduce the loss of babies’ lives. Fife Sands is a volunteer-led Group that works to support the charity’s vision aims in our area. As bereaved parents ourselves, we understand the pain and grief of when a baby dies. The support we offer can be accessed via telephone and email, and through support meetings and events with other bereaved families. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch. We are here to listen and offer our support.

Holding on Letting go

Providing bereavement support and advice for children and young people aged 6-16 and their families

Listenign ear

As a thriving and developing charity and social enterprise, Listening Ear helps those who’ve been bereaved, suffered loss or experienced separation (including, through our Amparo service, those who have been affected by suicide).We’re proud of our services and our partnerships with local authorities, the NHS, schools, local businesses and the trusts and foundations that help fund our work. We’re equally proud of the staff and volunteers who help us deliver high quality therapy and support.

SUDC UK

Raising awareness and funding research for Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood

Kemp Hospice

KEMP Hospice Bereavement Service offers bereavement advice, support and signposting to residents in the Wyre Forest Area who are looking for help. We support adult, children and young people bereaved due to a variety of circumstances and are a useful point of contact for bereavement support across the whole Wyre Forest Community. We offer a series of free one-to-one counselling sessions to talk through your experience and the many varied aspects of grief and emotions surrounding it. We offer a safe, non-judgmental place for you to express your feelings to someone independent of your usual support network of friends and family.

WAY

WAY is the only national charity in the UK for people aged 50 or under when their partner died. It’s a peer-to-peer support group operating with a network of volunteers who have been bereaved at a young age themselves, so they understand exactly what other members are going through. WAY was founded in 1997 and now has more than 3,000 members across England, Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland. WAY aims to provide peer-to-peer emotional and practical support to young widowed people married or not, with or without children, whatever their sexual orientation – as they adjust to life after the death of their partner. WAY Widowed and Young Suite 14, College Business Centre Uttoxeter New Road Derby DE22 3WZ Registered Charity No: 1164988 Email: enquiries@widowedandyoung.org.uk Website: https://www.widowedandyoung.org.uk

Saphna

SAPHNA is dedicated to the promotion of excellence in practice, taking forward the Public Health agenda by working in partnerships for the benefit of children and young people and the communities where they live and learn. This will be facilitated through the dissemination of the Journal of School and Public Health Nursing, conferences/events, bulletins, website, research, social media and other activity with key stakeholder groups.

Rowland Brothers Foundation

Rowland Brothers Foundation serves the community of Croydon and beyond by providing professional, excellent bereavement aftercare that is free of charge. Listening ear/pastoral support/counselling /life coaching - This is done 1:1, in groups, via phone or digitally. We also run ‘Never Alone” informal drop ins at various locations We provide practical help regarding all aspects of bereavement including wills, probate, lasting power of attorney, pre paid funeral plans etc We provide bereavement training for various organisations including police, council, registrars, first responders, religious ministers and many more"

National Bereavement Partnership Covid-19 Hub

The National Bereavement Partnership (NBP) provides a support helpline; counselling referral service and befriending programme, for all those suffering from bereavement, grief, living loss, mental health issues, and those affected by the COVID-19 pandemic. The trained volunteers provide information, advice and support to the general public, the NHS workers struggling with the stress of witnessing the mounting Coronavirus death toll, as well as those working in care settings. The national freephone helpline offers support specifically dedicated to managing emotional impact and mental wellbeing. The charity runs a befriending program and where needed, counselling referrals. Members of the public can reach the NBP’s support helpline on 0800 448 0800, operational 365 days of the year, 7am-10pm, in addition to SMS, e-mail, online webchat and via social media. Counsellors and psychotherapists are recruited specifically for their appropriate skill sets. They will be on hand to offer practical advice, support and assistance. Website: https://www.nationalbereavementpartnership.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/nbp_bereavement?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bereavementpartnership/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bereavementpartnership/?hl=en

Murdered Abroad

Murdered Abroad exists specially for people in the UK whose loved ones are the victims of murder or manslaughter abroad. We are a peer support group. We are also an action group, working for change within the UK to improve the support families receive after their loved one is murdered abroad.

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